How do I tell my best mate she's acting desperate?

You can only sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. Don't tell her what she's doing wrong as it will make her mad, put her on the defensive and not want to listen to you. What you can do is have more positive encouragement. Ask her what she wants in a guy. Listen carefully to her answer. Act like you're thinking about it for a bit. Tell her that guys like that don't hang out in bars, clubs, or wherever she is going to pick up guys. Really, they don't. It's mostly immature, guys just wanting to have fun, and not really interested in real commitment. It's debatable if the guys there are only after . The truth is most guys.. especially in lower to mid-twenties.. won't refuse if it's offered. However, they won't respect girls that are easy. Guys are not stupid. Easy girls are not commitment material. Girls that dress slutty won't get respect either. If a girl dresses more cly and doesn't have the first date she would have more respect and rule out a lot of creeps. The creeps will give up and move on to the easy girls. The guys open to a real relationship or looking for one will respect her. A guy needs time to get to know a girl and enjoy spending time with her before he'll consider marriage. Girls might envision their wedding before they ever even like guys and with a mother like hers I imagine she's got it in her head the only way to be happy is to be married. Unless she wises up and soon.. she's in for real heartbreak and extreme reality check. Guys don't think the way girls do about weddings. That's why women do all the planning and it's considered the bride's day... because guys aren't invested like women are into it. And marriage is a serious commitment. It's not a means to an end. It's not happily ever after. It's work. Real work. Divorce rate is high because people are not realizing or respecting that fact. I think women need to put more focus on the present day relationship than the wedding day that probably will not happen unless he agrees. Bombarding a man about wedding day just two weeks into it will have him running. It's too fast. Relationships shouldn't be stressful. Allow him to get to know her. Enjoy each other's company and the mystery of it all. Once married the whole making sure teeth are brushed or at least pop a mint before kissing is out. Morning and onion breath kisses are in. Date nights get limited and sadly sometimes overlooked between career, kids, etc. it's not glamorous. To stay connected to each other once living together and lasting through kids and other life changes requires working at it. Your friend needs to realize this. Until she sees the light you just have to be supportive. Be positive. Be there when it doesn't work out. When she gets too wrapped up into wedding plans tell her whoa, let's wait until you have a ring. If she manages to get a ring play a game with her.. ask her about the guy. What's his favorite color? Favorite beer? If he could go anywhere in the world where would he go? His hobbies, his friend's names, his religion, his exes, when he wants kids, he like pets, what would he expect of her as a wife (she stay at home raise the kids/clean the house/make him dinner, her to get a career while he stays at home, somewhere in the middle?), etc etc. The goal is to get her to realize just how much she knows about the guy and to realize there is some serious things after marriage that needs to be considered before saying "I do."